THINGS THAT MAKE YOU JOYFUL:
- Progress towards your goals
- Impending gain
- A desirable event/outcome has occurred
- Sensory pleasures
Related emotions: Amusement, contentment, excitement, relief, wonderment, ecstasy…
FEELING HAPPY VS. WELLBEING
Feeling Happy is a mood. Moods are temporary, they may last for minutes, hours, even days. Feeling Happy is a foreground emotion, something close to the surface.
Wellbeing is more long term; it affects how you react to foreground. True wellbeing is in the background of your feelings, so that no matter what mood you are encountering, in the background you are still truly okay.
OPTIMISM VS. PESSIMISM
Pessimists believe the world is destructive chaos. These people often portray emotions of frustration, negativity, and can be dangerous people.
Optimists believe the world is orderly and manageable. They are positive people, and they believe the world is full of possibilities.
Optimists generally are healthier and live longer lives than pessimists. But it’s import to not get carried away with optimism. Remember, EVIDENCE, ACCURACY, REALITY.
Research shows being yourself (or rather, your best self) leads you to a more meaning-filled life. For help finding meaning.
FINDING AUTHENTIC HAPPINESS & INCREASING GRATIFICATION
- Your past does not determine your present. Exercise free will and responsibility for your actions. In all ways, on all days.
- Increase your gratitude. Focus on and actively appreciate what makes you happy.
- Free yourself from emotional burden. Forgive, and release. Let go. Decide to forget the wrong that was done to you. For the sake of yourself and for your happiness.
ENJOY THE PRESENT
- Engage in complex activities that completely absorb you.
- Pursue meaningful goals.
- BE HERE NOW. NOW BE HERE.
“In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, and eternal summer.” Albert Camus
If you’re struggling with feeling joy, try these exercises:
- Grab some paper and answer these questions: What am I good at, that I enjoy doing? How can I do it every day?
- When you are alone, every day, (whether it’s in a car, or in the shower, or wherever) just plaster a big smile on your face and hold it there. Instant optimism fuel.
- Hug the people you care about.